Why You Should Be THAT GIRL Who Trains BJJ

As a female BJJ practitioner for a couple of years now, it is awesome to see more & more women getting into the BJJ scene, a sport primarily dominated by men. Unlike other combat sports, there is no punching or kicking involved, instead, BJJ uses locks, chokes and fancy joint manipulation to subdue the opponent.

Here are some of the reasons why you should be THAT GIRL who trains BJJ.

You become your own Hero.
Prior to BJJ, I’ve struggled with paranoia, whether it was walking alone in the carpark or getting into a taxi alone, there was always this lingering feeling of anxiousness at the back of my mind.

& then came BJJ.

The magical thing about BJJ is that it somehow makes you much braver than you think. BJJ has equipped me with simple yet lethal self defence techniques and taught me that sheer strength or power could easily be overturned. Not trying to brag, but I have submitted men much bigger and stronger than I am. Hence I can attest to that.

You start to love yourself.
When I was in my teens, I thought that you were only beautiful if you were a size zero, small shoulders, skinny thighs and other crazy unachievable beauty standards, for me at least. BJJ has taught me that there is more than one definition of beauty. Ever since BJJ, I started loving my body a whole lot more and rather than focusing on how it looks like, I started appreciating all the awesome things my body is capable of doing. My wide flexible hips make me more agile on the mats and that thunder thighs I used to complain about make for an impassable guard.

Believe me when I tell you, you are more than just the number on the scale.

You are beautiful, just the way you are.

You make family.
The thing about BJJ is that it involves a lot of time on the mat, together. The bond will begin from partnering up for drills together, catching a bite post BJJ trainings and even travelling for tournaments together. I find experiences like these, especially competing in a tournament together to be a rather intimate and a special one with your teammates. It is during these moments, you tend to see each other at their most vulnerable. Whether it is winning/losing or having a physical or mental breakdown during a match,  these would be when your ego is stripped raw and you will be seen at your purest & most real form, yet still accepted by your BJJ family.

Being in a ‘boyish’ sport, I find comfort especially in other BJJ girls. It is nice to be able to connect with other ladies who share the same love and struggles in BJJ. You will form a special connection with these wonderful jiujiteras you meet along the way while embarking on your BJJ quest. It is important to note that strong women lift each other up and sometimes literally- when you’re attempting a helicopter arm bar.

With all that being said, I know first hand that it can be quite intimidating to join your first BJJ class amongst big, sweaty  and sometimes hulk-ish looking men. It might be scary at first, but once you have donned on your rash guard or your Gi, I promise you it will be worth it.

Belt up princess & enjoy your BJJ journey.




  1. Ken

    Totally agree, and i am glad to have met and rolled with you. I know of too many ladies that when they see a clip of girls grappling with guys, they immediately think that us guys are having a “Good time when in fact we are just…training. Good article! 🙂


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